“Our children cannot aspire to be what they do not see.”
Dr. Sampson Davis, Dr. George Jenkins, and Dr. Rameck Hunt
The above quote is powerful. Often adults never really think about the ramifications of what children aspire to be based on what they see. How many of our children see parents in a loving relationship? How many of our children see teachers that honor and respect them? How many of our children see their hopes and dreams becoming a reality? How many of our children have to continue to live in hopeless despair? How many continue to walk the path of self-destruction? I ask you again, how many?
Instead of talking about the problem you must be part of the solution. If all you do is discuss what is wrong and take no action nothing changes. What are you doing for our children to aspire to be what they do not see? Are you respectful? Are you kind? Do you lead by example? Do you apologize? Do you put your best foot forward? Are you an example of excellence? If you are not providing our children with a great example of what they can be it is now time to change your behavior. You cannot expect them to be positive if you are not positive. You cannot expect them to show respect if you don’t show respect. You cannot expect them to read if you don’t read. Now some parents and relatives say, do as I say not as I do, but that makes absolutely no sense. However, we make ourselves believe that our children will do what we say and not mimic the negative behaviors we engage in. For example, if you use inappropriate language don’t be surprised if you catch your children using inappropriate language. Women, if you walk around half naked don’t be surprised when your son or daughter grows up and mimics that same behavior and walks around half naked. Remember, children cannot aspire to be what they do not see. In essence, we must be the change we want to see.
Change starts with you. If you are not willing to do what is necessary to make adjustments in your life, what makes you believe children will make adjustments in their life? Our children are bombarded with negative images daily. If we don’t counter those negative images with positive images, our children’s hopes and dreams will only be hopes and dreams. When was the last time you had an in-depth conversation with a child about what they want to be? A lot of children have no idea what they want to be because of the images they see. Let’s change what our children see so they can be the best they can be.